Chikondi Kapena Mantha?
Ulendo wa Brad Murphy
/PnV Network Mafunso
Wolemba Tom Peaks @MrPeaksNValleys
Nthawi zina ndikachita zoyankhulana zachitsanzozi, mumakumana ndi munthu yemwe amatsegula moyo wake, akudziwonetsera kuti dziko liwone. Umu ndi momwe zilili ndi Brad Murphy waku NYC. Pakufufuza kwanga musanayambe kuyankhulana, ndidapeza wina yemwe ndimamudziwa kuti ali ndi nkhani yoti anene. Ndipo Brad sanakhumudwe. Ndi munthu wofuna kutsegula mzimu wake ndikuchotsa malingaliro ake. Ndipo amene akufuna kukhala ndi moyo popanda kutaya kapena kulandira chiweruzo. Ili ndi GAWO Loyamba la zoyankhulana zomwe zimakutengerani paulendo wamoyo wa Brad Murphy kuti mukwaniritse umunthu wanu.
Pafupifupi 185 lbs ndi pansi pa 6'4 ". Tsitsi ndi lodetsedwa la blonde, maso otuwa. Tawuni yakwathu ndi Phoenix, Arizona chifukwa idatenga gawo lalikulu kwambiri ndili mwana, koma komwe ndikukhala ndi New York City. Ndikuyimiriridwa ndi Soul Artist Management.
Chifukwa chake, ndikukhulupirira kuti ndinu m'badwo woyamba waku Irish American. Kodi zimenezi zikutanthauza chiyani kwa inu?
Ndinabadwira ku California koma mayi anga anasamukira ku United States kuchokera ku Ireland kuti athawe nkhondo za IRA. Pomwe abambo anga adabadwira ndikukulira ku Phoenix Arizona, akadali ndi magazi amphamvu aku Ireland komanso Native American. Ndinaona ndili wamng’ono ndinali ndi chilakolako chachikulu chimene anthu ambiri ondizungulira alibe ndipo chifukwa cha chimenecho ndine wonyada kwambiri. Kukonda ndi chilichonse m'moyo. Ndipo zomwe zimatipanga ife, komwe tidachokera, komanso chifukwa chomwe tili momwe tilili ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa…kwa ine ndimakonda mayankho.
Brad, ndiwe monyadira mwana wa amayi. Tiuzeni chifukwa chake amatanthauza zambiri kwa inu.
Ukukumbukira chikhumbo chija ndinachikamba?? Chabwino kuyambira tsiku la 1, ndipo ndithudi monga khanda linali lamphamvu kwambiri ndipo amayi anga adawona kuti mofulumira ndipo adagwira ntchito kwambiri pondithandiza kulamulira mphamvuzo ndikukhala wodekha; ndipo tsopano ziri mu chirichonse chimene ine ndikuchita. Kutengera chidwi chomwe ndadalitsidwa nacho ndikusamala momwe chikuwonetsedwera. Anandiphunzitsanso zinthu zomwe sindikuganiza kuti tingaphunzire kumadera ena kuposa kwa mkazi wamphamvu. Ine ndimapeza kumverera uku mu mtima mwanga komwe ndimapeza ndikaganiza za iye; chipiriro, kulolerana, chifundo, bata, chimwemwe, kuvomereza…. Ndili ndi kusweka kwakukulu kwa amayi anga, wakhala mwala wanga moyo wanga wonse, ndipo chifukwa cha izi ndikufuna kumubwezera kwa iye ndi kudziko lapansi. Zonse zomwe ndili lero ndikuthokoza kwambiri kwa iye.
Tiuzeni za ubwana wanu. Kodi nthawi zonse mumakhala wopambana?
Tidasuntha kwambiri chifukwa abambo anga adasamutsidwa kumadera 4 osiyanasiyana omwe ndidawayimbira kunyumba komwe ndidafikira ku Arizona ndili ndi zaka 9 ndipo ndinakulira kumeneko makamaka. Makolo anga ankadziwa kuti amayenera kundipangitsa kukhala wotanganidwa, kotero kuti kuyambira kale momwe ndikukumbukira, ndipo pofika kusukulu ya pulayimale ndinali nditasewera pafupifupi masewera onse kuyambira tennis mpaka hockey, kusambira, bowling ... kwa zaka 14 ndipo adapanga luso lamagulu ambiri, ndipo nthawi zonse anali opambana pa ayezi kotero utsogoleri & mpikisano unakhala gawo lalikulu la yemwe ndili.
Ine nthawizonse ndimapeza njira yangayanga, mu chirichonse chimene ine ndimachita; imirira, ndipo ndili pafupi. Nthawi zonse ndimakhala wokonda kudzikonda ndekha komanso kuchita zanga… -Brad Murphy
Palibe amene angandiuze chilichonse chokhudza zomwe ndili kapena zomwe akuganiza kuti ndine chifukwa ndakhala ndikulakalaka kwambiri momwe ndiliri kwa nthawi yonse yomwe ndikukumbukira. Ndimakumbukira bwino ndili ndi zaka 16 mumisozi yomwe ikuyenda mumvula chifukwa cha kusweka koyipa ... ndikudziuza ndekha kuti ndimagwira ntchito molimbika ndekha ndipo ngati wina angandikwiyire, ndiye chifukwa chake ... osati ine. Ine sindidzasintha kwa aliyense.
Kodi ndi kangati m'moyo wanu mudavutikapo ndi vuto lalikulu lopezekapo…?
Chokhudza ubwana wanga chomwe chinachitika m'moyo wanga ndinataya bwenzi langa lapamtima, mchimwene wanga wamng'ono kwambiri ali ndi zaka 23, komwe anali ndi zaka 21 zokha. Ndipo nditamaliza sukulu ya sekondale ine ndi "mnzanga" ameneyo,
Ndingayerekeze kunena kuti ndikukudziwani, Brad, mukuwoneka ngati mwamuna yemwe angakhale mtumiki wodziwika bwino. Mumakamba nkhani zolimbikitsa zoterozo za mmene anthu amagwirizanirana ndi kufunika kwa chikondi. Nthawi zambiri, zitsanzo zimakhala ndi ndalama zambiri pakulankhula zolimbitsa thupi ... ndi pafupifupi cliché. Koma, mumalumikizidwa kwambiri muzomverera ndi chikhulupiriro. Kodi zimenezi zikuchokera kuti?
Ndinakulira ndikusekedwa kwambiri ndipo sindimamvetsetsa chifukwa chake…. Ndinagwira ntchito molimbika kuti ndidziwe momwe ndinaliri kwa anthu… Ndinali mumutu mwanga kwambiri kukula, kuganiza komanso kudabwa chifukwa chake anthu amandichitira mosiyana… Kufunafuna mayankho nthawi zonse ndipo zidandipangitsa kukhala wachifundo komanso wololera kwa anthu. Kukumbukira zowawa ndi kudzipatula komwe ndidamva panthawiyo… zili ngati ndikupereka kawiri momwe ndimayembekezera kuchokera kwa anthu tsopano. Zinthu zonse zimandipangitsa kudzifunsa kuti chifukwa chiyani anthu amandichitira chonchi koma makamaka chifukwa chomwe amachitira anthu motere. Chifukwa chiyani chidani pomwe ndimangofuna kukonda kwambiri. Ndinayamba kufewetsa moyo ndikudzifunsa kuti ndi chiyani chomwe chimatigwirizanitsa tonse, ndi malingaliro otani omwe tonsefe timayesetsa kukhala nawo. Pansi pa chilichonse tili ndi chikondi kapena mantha. Titha kusankha kuchita zinthu ziwirizi…Chikondi kapena kusowa chikondi, komwe ndi mantha. Ndipo mantha ali pa chipembedzo changa.
Chiweruzo ndi msampha… Tikakhala ndi ziyembekezo pa chilichonse m'moyo timadzipatula tokha kuti tisamaone zinthu momwe zilili. Ndimakonda kutenga zinthu ndi malingaliro omasuka komanso omasuka, osayembekezera, ndipo ndimalola anthu kuti adziwonetse okha kwa ine. Komanso zochitika chifukwa ngati chilichonse chikuyenera kukhala; zikhala. Zoyembekeza zimatipangitsa kukhala okhumudwa… Ndimasankha kukhala ndi moyo wopanda zokhumudwitsa komanso wothokoza kwambiri. Anthu ambiri akugwirabe ntchito kuti apeze chiyamiko chawo mwa iwo okha, kufunafuna mkati mwawo malingaliro awo pa moyo ... kotero amaweruza, ndi kusankhana chifukwa monga ndinanena kale; chisokonezo. ndiye kwenikweni akutaya…osati ine. Ndimasankha chifundo ndi kulolerana ndi anthu, motsutsana ndi chiweruzo ndi kuyembekezera. Kuletsa anthu kuti asaweruze sikutheka…Timada nkhawa kwambiri ndi zomwe anthu “angaganize”, koma mukudziwa chiyani, aziganiza choncho, sangalalani.
Kodi kukhala womasuka ndi womasuka kumatanthauza chiyani kwa inu?
Kutenga anthu momwe alili. Ndipo zochitika…Popanda chiweruzo kapena zoyembekezera. Ingokhalani mololera komanso wokhoza kutenga chilichonse kuchokera kwa anthu ndi zochitika kuti nditha kutenga momwe zilili, osati momwe ndikuwonera. Tikakhala ndi chiyembekezo kapena malamulo pa zomwe timawona, ndi momwe zinthu ziyenera kukhalira…. timaphonya Choonadi pa chilichonse. Chowonadi ndi chomwe chikuyima, chodziwikiratu. Musanyalanyaze chilichonse…ngati tili ndi ziyembekezo tidzazitenga mopepuka.
Ndakumva mukunena mukamatumiza zithunzi zopanda malaya kapena achigololo kuti sizongoyang'ana, koma kuyamikira mwaluso. Fotokozani.
Mumakonda kufufuza njira zonse zodziwonetsera nokha. Tiuzeni momwe mumachitira zimenezo.
Ndikumva wamoyo pamene malingaliro anga atsekedwa ndipo ndikungokhala. Nyimbo zandiphunzitsa zimenezo. Ndimamvanso chimodzimodzi ndikasiya monga ndimachitira munyimbo, kapena ndikakhala pa yoga ndi kumasuka, kapena poimba piyano, kuvina, kapena kusewera hockey…. Ndimachita ludzu la zinthu zomwe zimatsegula mzimu wanga ndikuchotsa malingaliro anga. Zimamveka ngati organic, ndikumva kuti ndili ndi moyo. Monga kumverera kwa adrenaline, kapena kukhala wopanda kulemera. Monga palibe nkhawa m'mbuyomu ndi masiku ano, kungokhala mu mphindi. Kumva chikondi kumatipatsa ife ndi munthu wina. Lingaliro lazonse zikhala bwino, "Ndili ndi ine, ndipo ndizo zonse zomwe ndikufunika." Chilichonse ndi chilichonse chomwe chimandiwonetsa popanda kuganiza kuti ndimakonda kuchita. Kukhala wachilengedwe, musayese… ingokhalani.
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Ojambula omwe akupezeka mu Mafunso a Brad Gawo Loyamba akuphatikizapo: Parcel Bernier, Steve Burton, Andrea Marino, Hard Cider ndi Bruce Weber.