Niba uri mubucuti burambye, uzi ko urukundo rusobanura guhora hejuru no kumanuka. Birumvikana ko ifite impande zayo nziza cyane, ariko kandi isobanura akazi gakomeye, guhangana nishyari, imitwaro yumutima cyangwa ihahamuka. A. umubano mwiza, ukuze ntibisaba urukundo gusa, ahubwo bisaba na toni yinshingano, ubudahemuka no kwitanga.
Kubwamahirwe, ukuri kwerekana ko bigoye gukomeza uyu murimo utoroshye hagati yabantu babiri. Inshuro nyinshi, uruhande rumwe rwumubano rwumva ko bakora cyane kugirango umubano ugire ubuzima bwiza kandi wuzuye urukundo, kandi uhuze ibyo mugenzi wabo akeneye byose, mugihe umuntu wa kabiri…. ni hano.
Urumva kandi ko ariwowe uhora utanga ariko ukabura ibyo ukeneye hagati aho? Kubwamahirwe, hari uburyo bwo kubona amaherezo ibyo ushaka mubucuti utababaje cyangwa wirengagije umukunzi wawe. Niba ushaka kumenya ibanga ryumubano wishimye numuntu wawe udasanzwe, komeza usome.
Fungura, ntugandukire
Kugirango ubuzima bwawe bwo mumutwe bugume mu mwanya wabyo, ugomba kureka igitekerezo cyo kwemeranya nibintu byose mugenzi wawe ashaka. Wibuke gufungura ariko kutumvira; umva ibitekerezo byabo, ariko ntugahatire kubisohoza niba utabishaka.
Tekereza ku mibonano mpuzabitsina. Niba umukunzi wawe afite imibonano mpuzabitsina, ntutegetswe kubigiramo uruhare niba udasangiye inyungu zabo. Kugira imibonano mpuzabitsina nzima kandi ishimishije, ntugomba guhatira ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose cyangwa gukora nkibintu byiza mugihe atari byiza.
Niba abashakanye badakanda ku mibonano mpuzabitsina, ntabwo imperuka yisi; muriyi minsi, ibikoresho byinshi birashobora gufasha umuntu kunyurwa nigitsina adashyizeho igitutu kinini kubakunzi. Niba umukunzi wawe ari mubikinisho byimibonano mpuzabitsina cyangwa imyanya kandi utari we, urashobora kubashakira igikoresho cya erotic cyangwa nigipupe cyimibonano mpuzabitsina. Ibi bizatanga impano nziza kandi nziza kuri mugenzi wawe, kandi bizagukuraho igitutu. Icyitonderwa kimwe: kugura ibicuruzwa byiza, menya neza ko ubonye igikoresho kiva mumasoko yizewe atanga ibikinisho byumutekano gusa. Ibi birashobora kuba https://www.siliconwives.com cyangwa ikindi kintu cyose cyemewe.
Ibuka: wowe numubiri wawe ntacyo ugomba umwenda. Buri gihe kora gusa ibyo wumva bikubereye.
Menya neza
Kubaka umubano uhamye bisaba urufatiro rukomeye. Urufatiro, muriki kibazo, niwowe. Ni ryari uheruka gutekereza ku byifuzo byawe, drives cyangwa inyungu zawe? Kugirango ubashe kumenyekanisha ibyo ukeneye kumuntu udasanzwe, ubanza ugomba kumenya neza ko wimenye kandi ufite agaciro.
Fata igihe cyawe gusa - menya ubwoko bw'urukundo wumva bukubereye, icyo ukeneye mubandi bantu, nuburyo icyerekezo cyawe cyo kurota mubuzima bwawe busangiye nabo. Urashobora gutangira kwandika ikarita kugirango wandike ibyiyumvo byawe mugihe runaka cyangwa ugire gahunda hamwe numuvuzi ushobora kugufasha kuvumbura n'inzira yawe.
Wibuke - gushimisha umukunzi wawe birashoboka gusa niba ibyo ukeneye nibisabwa bisobanutse, kandi wishimiye wenyine.
Menya Agaciro kawe
Kimwe mu bintu byingenzi mubuzima nukwikunda. Birashobora gusa nkibisobanuro, ariko turakwemeza ko gutangira kwikunda bizahindura uko ubona isi nuburyo isi ikubona.
Niba utiyubashye kandi wihesha agaciro nigihe cyawe, abantu - ndetse nabawegereye - nabo ntibazabikora. Guhora wemera ibintu byose ntibizigera bigutera ibibazo, ariko kandi ntibizagufasha gutuma wumva ko ufite agaciro kandi bingana mubucuti.
Kugirango umenye agaciro kawe, shakisha ikintu uri mwiza. Ahari ushobora kubona ibyo ukunda cyangwa ugahitamo akazi gashya, cyangwa wenda ukaba wifuza kwiga ubuhanga bushya?
Mu kurangiza, byose ni ukugaragaza ko ushobora gukora icyo wahisemo gukora.
Kugira ikizere mubice bishya byubuzima bizaguha imbaraga zamarangamutima ukeneye, kimwe no kumva imbaraga nicyizere. Nkumuntu wizeye, ntuzongera gushaka guhuza ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose, uzi ko ari wowe wenyine ushobora gufata ibyemezo byubuzima bwawe kandi ushobora gukora icyo ushaka.
Wibuke ko nubwo nk'umuntu wiyizeye, urashobora gushimisha umuntu wawe udasanzwe - ariko iki gihe, ufite imipaka n'ibiteganijwe.
Gira Isi Yawe
Nubwo kumarana buri munsi numukunzi wawe byerekana ko umubano wawe ukomeye kandi ukomeye, ntabwo byanze bikunze ari byiza. Ku bijyanye n'imibanire, abahanga bahora basaba abantu bombi kugira isi yose yaba iyabo gusa.Ntabwo ari ukuyobora ibanga, ubuzima bwa kabiri hamwe nundi muntu; ahubwo, tekereza ukurikije kugira uruziga rwawe rwinshuti cyangwa ibyifuzo byawe bidasanzwe. Kugabana ibintu byose byubuzima byunvikana, ariko mugihe kirekire, bigira ingaruka mbi kumubano ndetse nubuzima bwo mumutwe bwa buri muntu.
Wibagiwe kuba kimwe cya kabiri cya pome; mubyukuri, ugomba kuba umwe, wuzuye, wose wenyine. Ubu buryo, uzubaha wowe ubwawe numwanya wawe mubucuti bihagije kugirango ushireho imipaka kandi ugaragaze neza ibyo ukeneye.
Igice gishya, Isano imwe
Umubano ntabwo woroshye. Ariko igikomeye kurushaho nukwiga uko wishyira imbere. Birashoboka ko wigishijwe mubwana bwawe ko ari egoistic gushyira ibyiyumvo byawe cyangwa ibyo ukeneye hejuru yabandi. Niba aribyo, shyira izo nyigisho hanze yidirishya, wige mantra nshya: ubuzima bwawe burakureba gusa.
Abantu, umubano, inshuti - bose baraza bakagenda. Ibizahora hamwe nawe, ni… wenyine. Ntugatakaze umwanya wawe w'agaciro ugerageza gushimisha abandi - aho, kugushimisha. Hamwe ninama zacu, urashobora noneho gutangira urugendo rwawe rwo kwivumbura. Amahirwe masa!