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Kule mihla, akukho mntu uyayazi iziseko zokwenyani zokuba linene elilungileyo, kwasebuntwaneni, ndafundiswa ukuba iGentleman imele kuthetha ukuthini. Ndikholelwa ukuba onke amadoda anokwahlulwa abe ngamacandelo amathathu ahlukeneyo:
- UNdoda ebesengumntwana kwaye kusafuneka akhule eluxanduva lwakhe
- I-Macho eyasebenzisa amandla kunye nengqiqo yobuxoki yobudoda ukufihla ukungakhuseleki kwakhe ngelixa exhaphaza abanye.
- Indoda yokwenyani eyathatha izibophelelo zayo ngokuzingca.
Gcina ukhumbule ukuba kum ngelo xesha "iNdoda yokwenyani" yayisoloko iyindoda elungileyo, kwaye onke amadoda aLungileyo ayengamaGentleman. Utat'omkhulu wayenomnqwazi owenziweyo owakhiwe yindlu yase-Italiya i-Canali, eyaziwa kwihlabathi jikelele ngeesuti ezilungiselelweyo. Ndiya kuhlala ndikhumbula iphunga laloo mnqwazi, ukuxhoma kwi-coat rack, xa wayedla ngokufika ekhaya, wayesoloko esithi, "isimilo sibonisa isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo ebomini".
Nangona i-etiquette iyiseti yemithetho kunye nolwazi olunokufundiswa kuye nabani na, olungenamsebenzi wokuba ngumntu olungileyo okanye hayi. Ngokuphathelele ukuzalwa "kwintsapho elungileyo" kwaye ube kakuhle njengento emisela ukuba ube yinene? Uninzi lwamanene endikhe ndadibana nawo ebomini bam avela kwisiqalo esithobekileyo kwaye zonke zinezinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi ebomini kunemali.
Isimilo somntu onesidima siyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yakhe kwaye iyafana nokuba ikwigumbi lakhe lokunxiba okanye kwigumbi lebhola, iisuti zokuthunga kunye needyasi ezinecashmere enobuso obubini kunokukunceda ukuba wahlule phakathi kwabanye.
Kwakamsinya nje wakuba uqonda indlela izenzo zakho ezibachaphazela ngayo abanye, indlela oza kuphendula ngayo ngovuyo neentlungu osenokuzifumana, indlela oyijonga ngayo indlela owenza ngayo iyatshintsha. Uya kucinga ngabanye, hayi wena kuphela, ngalo lonke ixesha usenza into ethile. Uya kuba nolwazelelelo ngakumbi kwaye ube noxanduva ngakumbi kwizigqibo zakho. Yaye xa usenza iimpazamo, ngokwenene ukulungele ukuzamkela. Kuphela emva kokwamkela iimpazamo zakho unokufunda kuzo, into emangalisayo kweli hlabathi lokukhanyela.
Ubulula bufana nayo, kuba nayo inomgangatho wokuzilungisa, kodwa ngokwenene ithetha uthando lwezinto ezibalulekileyo kunye nokuthe ngqo. Abantu abaqhelekileyo abawabeki ngcibi kumabinzana abo, nakwimikhwa yabo; kodwa khumbula, ukulula asikokuba krwada okanye nantoni na efana nayo. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, ukuthetha ngokulula kunye nesimilo kuthetha ulwimi olusulungekileyo, olona lwimi luthambileyo, nokuziphatha okugqibelele kangangokuba azinikeli “ndlela” konke konke.
Ukuba yinene ayisosihloko esisisigxina kodwa yinto oyilwelayo yonke imihla, ngayo yonke into eyenziwayo, kunye nokusabela kwayo yonke imihla.
Amazwi kaChris Cruz
Ukufota: Ingqokelela A/W 2017 yiCanali