Uhambo lukaBrad Murphy/PnV Network Interview

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Uhambo lukaBrad Murphy

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Ngamanye amaxesha xa ndisenza olu dliwano-ndlebe olungumzekelo, udibana nomntu ovula umphefumlo wakhe, ezibhenca ukuze ihlabathi libone. Injalo imeko ye-NYC-based Brad Murphy. Kuphando lwam lwangaphambi kodliwano-ndlebe, ndifumene umntu endimaziyo ukuba unebali eliza kubalisa. NoBrad akazange aphoxeke. Ungumntu ofuna ukuvula umoya wakhe kwaye acime ingqondo yakhe. Kwaye lowo ufuna ukuphila ngaphandle kokuphosa okanye ukufumana isigwebo. Eli liCANDELO LOKUQALA lodliwanondlebe olukuthatha kuhambo lobomi bukaBrad Murphy ukuze ufezekise ubuntu.

Brad, masiqale ngolwazi olusisiseko. Ubunzima / ubude, umbala wamehlo / weenwele? Idolophu yakho kunye nesixeko ohlala kuso ngoku? Ngubani omele wena?

Ngokumalunga ne-185 lbs kwaye kanye phantsi kwe-6'4". Iinwele zimdaka blonde, amehlo antswayi. Idolophu yasekhaya yiPhoenix, eArizona kuba idlale indima enkulu ebuntwaneni bam, kodwa indawo endihlala kuyo ngoku sisiXeko saseNew York. Ndimelwe yiSoul Artist Management.

Ke, ndiyakholelwa ukuba usisizukulwana sokuqala sase-Irish American. Ithetha ntoni loo nto kuwe?

Ndazalelwa eKhalifoniya kodwa umama wafudukela eU.SA esuka eIreland ukuze abaleke kumadabi eIRA. Ngelixa utata wam wazalwa kwaye wakhulela ePhoenix Arizona, usenegazi elomeleleyo laseIreland kunye nabemi bomthonyama baseMelika. Ndiqaphele ndisemncinci ukuba ndinomdla onzulu abantu abaninzi abandingqongileyo abangenawo kwaye ngenxa yoko ndiyazingca. Umdla yinto yonke ebomini. Kwaye yintoni eyenza ukuba, sivela phi, kwaye kutheni siyiloo nto siyiyo kubalulekile ukuqonda…ubuncinci kum ndiyazithanda iimpendulo.

UBrad, uyazingca uyinkwenkwe kamama. Sixelele ukuba kutheni ethetha lukhulu kuwe.

Uyakhumbula la passion ndithethe ngayo?? Ewe ukusukela ngomhla woku-1, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo njengosana lwalubukhali kwaye umama wayibona kwangoko kwaye wasebenza kakhulu ekundincedeni ndilawule loo mandla kunye nokuzola ngakumbi; kwaye ngoku kukho yonke into endiyenzayo. Ukwamkela uthando endisikelelwe ngalo kwaye ndilumke ukuba luqikelelwa njani. Undifundise nezinto endingaqondi ukuba singazifunda kwezinye iindawo ngaphandle kowasetyhini owomeleleyo. Ndifumana le mvakalelo entliziyweni yam endiba nayo xa ndicinga ngaye; imvakalelo yomonde, unyamezelo, imfesane, ukuzola, uvuyo, ukwamkelwa…. Ndifumene olona thando lubalaseleyo kumama wam, ube lilitye lam ubomi bam bonke, kwaye ngenxa yoko ndifuna ukuyibuyisela kuye kunye nehlabathi. Yonke into endiyiyo namhlanje ngumbulelo omkhulu kuye.

Sixelele ngobuntwana bakho. Ngaba ubusoloko uyingqwele?

Sifudukele kakhulu kuba utata wam wafuduselwa kumazwe ama-4 ahlukeneyo endathi ndawabiza ekhaya apho ndaye ndaphelela e-Arizona ndineminyaka eyi-9 kwaye ndakhulela apho ubukhulu becala. Abazali bam babesazi ukuba kufuneka bandigcine ndixakekile, ngoko ke ndikhumbula, ukuya kwisikolo samabanga aphakathi ndandidlalile phantse yonke imidlalo ukusuka kwintenetya ukuya kwihoki, ukuqubha, ukujula… iminyaka eli-14 kwaye waphuhlisa izakhono ezininzi zeqela, kwaye yayisoloko yenye yezona zingcono kumkhenkce ngoko ubunkokeli kunye nokhuphiswano lwaba yinxalenye enkulu yokuba ndingubani.

Ndandisoloko ndifumana eyam indlela, kuyo yonke into endiyenzayo; yima, kwaye ndimalunga. Ndandisoloko ndiziva ndingumntu oyedwa kwaye ndizenzela eyam into… -Brad Murphy

Akukho mntu unokundixelela nantoni na malunga nento endiyiyo okanye ukuba bacinga ukuba ndingubani kuba bendisoloko ndinomnqweno onamandla wokuba ndingubani ixesha elide ndikhumbula. Ndikhumbula ngokucacileyo ngo-16 kwiinyembezi ezibaleka emvuleni ngenxa yokwahlukana okubi ... Andisoze nditshintshe nakubani na.

Zingaphi izihlandlo ebomini bakho othe wabandezeleka ngenxa yengxaki ekhoyo ekhoyo…ukuba kuyenzeka?

Impembelelo enkulu yobuntwana yam eyenzeke ebomini bam kukuba ndaphulukana nomhlobo wam osenyongweni, umkhuluwa omncinane kakhulu eneminyaka engama-23 ubudala, apho wayengekafiki kwiminyaka engama-21 ubudala. Kwaye emva kwesikolo samabanga aphakamileyo mna kunye no "loo" umhlobo,

UDallas, waba njengabazalwana, wayesoloko exelela abantu ukuba singabazalwana… Andizange ndibe nomntu ojonge kum ngolo hlobo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Into ephambeneyo kukuba ndijonge umntwana kanye. Ngenxa nje yembeko awayendinika yona. Wayendibona njengomhlobo kunye nobhuti ngeendlela endandingazi nokuba ndinguye. Undenze le nto ndiyiyo namhlanje njengomhlobo nomzekelo ebantwini. Wayengomnye wabahlobo bam bokuqala abandithandayo ngaphandle kwemiqathango kwaye ukwindawo engcono ngoku. Noko kufuneka ndizixelele lonto. Akasakwazi ukuhamba kulo mhlaba kwakhona…. So inyathelo ngalinye endilithathayo ngoku lelethu. Ndine tattoo enye, kwaye isesihlahleni sam, kwaye iza kundikhumbuza ukuba ndibe ngumhlobo osenyongweni, loo mzalwana kuye wonke umntu. Kwaye ukuba yindalo kwaye ungazami ukuba nantoni na. Ndicinga ngaye yonke imihla. Ndiziva ndisikelelekile ukuba ndiye ndachatshazelwa ngolu hlobo.

Ndingathanda ukuthi xa ndiqhelana nawe, Brad, ubonakala uyindoda enokuba ngumlungiseleli obalaseleyo. Unika ezo ntetho zikhuthazayo ngendlela abantu abanxibelelana ngayo nokubaluleka kothando. Ngokwesiqhelo, iimodeli zityalwe kakhulu ekuthetheni ukomelela…iphantse yacaca. Kodwa, uxhumeke ngakumbi kwiimvakalelo kunye nokholo. Ivela phi loo nto?

Ndikhule ndihlekwa kakhulu kwaye andizange ndisiqonde isizathu…. Ndasebenza nzima ukuba ndingubani ebantwini… Intloko yam yayikhula kakhulu, ndicinga kwaye ndizibuza ukuba kutheni abantu bendiphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo… kwakutheni ukuze ndiqondwe. Ngalo lonke ixesha ndikhangela iimpendulo kwaye kwandizisa ukuba ndibe novelwano ngakumbi kwaye ndinyamezele ebantwini. Ukukhumbula intlungu kunye nokwahluka endakuva ngoko ... kufana nokuba ndinikela ngokuphindwe kabini njengoko ndilindele ebantwini ngoku. Zonke izinto zikhokelela ekubeni ndizibuze ukuba kwakutheni ukuze abantu bandiphathe ngolu hlobo kodwa okona kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba kutheni bephatha abantu ngokubanzi ngolu hlobo. Yintoni eyayibangela inzondo xa ndandifuna ukuthanda nje ngamandla. Ndaqala ukwenza lula ubomi kwaye ndizibuza ukuba yintoni na esidibanisa sonke, yeyiphi imvakalelo eqhelekileyo esizama ngayo sonke. Ngaphantsi kwayo yonke into sinothando okanye uloyiko. Sinokukhetha ukwenza ezo mvakalelo zimbini…Uthando okanye ukuswela uthando, olululoyiko. Kwaye uloyiko luchasene nenkolo yam.

"Uyimodeli, ngoko ke kufuneka ube nekratshi!" Ngaba ucinga ukuba yimbono kaBrad Murphy? Wenza njani ukuze ungabagwebi abantu nje?

Isigwebo ngumgibe… Xa silindele nantoni na ebomini siyazikhupha ekuboneni izinto njengoko zinjalo. Ndikhetha ukuthatha izinto ngengqondo evulekileyo kunye nentliziyo evulekileyo, ngaphandle kokulindela, kwaye ndivumela abantu ukuba bazibonakalise kum. Kwakhona iimeko kuba ukuba nantoni na kuthethwa ukuba; iya kuba. Ulindelo lusenzela ukuphoxeka… Ndikhetha ukuphila ngaphandle kokuphoxeka kunye nombulelo ongaphezulu. Abantu abaninzi basasebenzela ukufumana umbulelo wabo ngaphakathi kubo, bekhangela ngaphakathi imbono yabo ngobomi… ke bayagweba, kwaye bayacalula kuba njengoko benditshilo ngaphambili; ukudideka. ke ngenene bayaphulukana...hayi mna. Ndikhetha uvelwano kunye nokunyamezelana nabantu, ngokuchasene nokugweba kunye nokulindela. Ukugcina abantu ekugwebeni akunakwenzeka…Sinexhala kakhulu malunga nokuba abantu “banokuthi” bacinge ntoni, kodwa uyazi ukuba yintoni na, baza kucinga ngayo, ngoko ke yifake.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba nengqondo evulekileyo kunye nentliziyo evulekileyo kuwe?

Ukuthatha abantu njengoko benjalo. Kwaye iimeko…Ngaphandle kwesigwebo okanye okulindelekileyo. Hlala nje uzimisele kwaye ukwazi ukuthatha nantoni na kubantu kunye neemeko ukuze ndikwazi ukuthatha njengoko kunjalo, kungekhona indlela endiyibona ngayo. Xa sinolindelo okanye sinemithetho kwinto esiyibonayo, kunye nendlela izinto ezimele ukuba ngayo…. siyaphoswa yinyani nokuba yintoni na. Inyaniso yile nto imiyo, icacile. Ungathathi nto…ukuba silindele lukhulu siyakuthatha lula.

Ndikuvile xa uthumela imifanekiso engena-shirtless okanye e-sexy ukuba ayisiyiyo ingqalelo, kodwa kunombulelo wobugcisa. Cacisa.

Amehlo kunye nomzimba uthetha phezulu kwaye uyinyani ngaphezu kwayo nantoni na enokuphuma emlonyeni. Ndangena kwimodeli yobugcisa bokuvakalisa. Ndandikwixesha apho ndandingenzi kwanto ikhethekileyo ngobomi bam kwaye ndandingonwabanga kakhulu ngumceli mngeni nayiphi na into eyayindinika yona emva kokuva umhlobo wam esithi mandiye kolu vavanyo kwaye “ndiye ndajonga” oko. babethanda, ndacinga ukuba kutheni kungenjalo. Yiza ukuyifumana ndiye ndathandana nemodeli… okanye mandithi ubugcisa bokuzibonakalisa. Ndizifumene kakhulu kule lens kuba ibindicela umngeni ukuba ndijonge ngaphakathi kum. Ukuthetha ngaphandle kwamagama, kwaye nje amehlo kunye nomzimba eyona ndlela yonxibelelwano ikhona. Ndiziva ngathi uninzi lwabantu luphulukana nenqaku lalo naluphi na ubugcisa ngenxa yeemvakalelo ezigqithileyo abazifumanayo… ngaloo ndlela begweba kuba abaqondi ukuba zeziphi ezo mvakalelo. Yiloo nto endiyifundise yona imodeli; okwesihlandlo sokuqala ebomini bam bonke ndaziva ngathi ikhamera iyabuza, "ungubani?!" Xa ndimi phambi kwekhamera okanye eqongeni ndidlala, ndiziva ngathi ukujonga emva kum yiyo yonke into engazange indiqonde. Njengoko ndisiva umbuzo… “Kutheni ulapha? Uxolo, ungubani wena? Andikwazi wena!” kwaye mandikuxelele, ndinento yokuthetha malunga nokuba ndingubani. Ndiziva ngathi ukwenza imodeli kunye nokwenza kuphela indawo apho umhlaba undivumela ukuba ndibe ndim.

Uthanda ukuphonononga zonke iindlela zokuzibonakalisa. Sixelele ukuba uyenza njani loo nto.

Ndiziva ndiphila xa ingqondo yam ivaliwe kwaye ndiyinto nje. Umculo undifundise oko. Ndifumana imvakalelo efanayo ngokuyeka njengoko ndisenza kuncuthu lwengoma yomculo, okanye xa ndikwiyoga kwaye ndiphumle, okanye xa ndidlala ipiyano, okanye ndidanisa, okanye ndidlala ihoki…. Ndinxanelwe izinto ezivula umoya wam zicime ingqondo yam. Ivakala i-organic, ndiziva ndiphila. Njengemvakalelo ye-adrenaline, okanye ukungabi nasisindo. Njengokungabi naxhala kwixesha elidlulileyo nelikhoyo, ukuhlala nje kulo mzuzu. Imvakalelo yothando isinika omnye umntu. Ingqiqo yayo yonke into iya kulunga, "Ndilungile, kwaye yiyo yonke into endiyifunayo." Nantoni na nayo yonke into ezibonakalisayo ngaphandle kokucinga ukuba ndiyakonwabela ukuyenza. Ukuba yindalo, ungazami ... yiba nje.

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Abathwebuli bezithombe abavezwe kuNxibelelwano lukaBrad lweNqanaba lokuqala lubandakanya: I-Parcel Bernier, uSteve Burton, u-Andrea Marino, i-Hard Cider kunye noBruce Weber.