Kuvakala ngathi kudala xa indlela yokuya "kwinkundla" ngokufanelekileyo umntu wayebonakala ekhayeni lakhe ngeentyatyambo ngesandla esinye kunye nesundu esomileyo nesomelele silindele ukuxhawula isandla sikayise.
Kwaba ngathi ekuphela kwendlela yokubiza umntu “ngowakho” kukucela isandla komnye umntu. Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, nangona kunjalo, izinto zenziwa ngokwahlukileyo kancinci kunokuba zazinjalo ngaphambili.
Ngenkqubela phambili yetekhnoloji kwiminyaka emininzi, itekhnoloji kunye neenjineli ziye zafumana indlela yokuzisa ukuthandana ngokuthe ngqo kuwe kunye nasentendeni yesandla sakho ngokuswayipha ngokulula komnwe.
Ngokunyuka kwamaqonga eendaba ezentlalo, kunye nembono ehlekisayo yokuthandana kwi-intanethi. Apho unokuzibonakalisa khona ngemifanekiso kunye nebhayoloji engagqithiyo yamagama angama-60 ngethemba lokuba iNkosana yakho enomtsalane iya kuswayipha kanye njengoko wenzayo.
Indlela eyonwabisayo yokunxibelelana noluntu nelizwe langaphandle ukusuka kubutofotofo bekhaya lakho okanye imoto yakho iza ngeendlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo zosetyenziso olunokufikeleleka ngokulula kwivenkile yeapp efumaneka kwifowuni nganye.
Ngokungeniswa kwee-apps ezifana ne-Tinder, i-Bumble, kunye ne-Hinge, umhlaba wokuthandana usungulwe kwiindawo eziphakamileyo ezahlukeneyo. Ukuphakama okungazange kubonwe ngaphambili emva kweentsuku ze-corsets kunye nokuvunywa kukayise.
Olu setyenziso luthatha ulwazi olufutshane malunga nawe kwaye lusebenzise olo lwazi ukuseta nabantu abavela kwihlabathi liphela abanomdla ofanayo njengawe, konke egameni lothando.
Yintoni enokuthi ithathelwe ingqalelo, ulonwabo olumangalisayo malunga nezi apps kukuba azikuncedi nje ukuba ufumane ulonwabo kubudlelwane obuzibophelele ngokupheleleyo, kunceda ekukhanyeni ukukhanya kwabo bangafuni ukuzibophelela kubudlelwane bexesha elizeleyo.
Ngezi apps, bathatha ixesha ukukhanyisa isibane kwabo bafuna nje eqhelekileyo. Abantu abangakumbi bafuna abahlobo abaneenzuzo zohlobo lwemeko; umntu wokudibana naye.
Ezi apps ziqinisekisa ukuba zifikelela kubathengi bayo abancinci abangakhange bajonge uhlobo oluzinzile lobomi okwangoku. Abo bajonge ngakumbi kwizinto ezikwinkalo yezesondo.
Akukho ntloni, sonke siyabathanda abahlobo abalungileyo abaneemeko eziluncedo. Lilitye elingundoqo kwezinye iibhondi ezihlala ixesha elide. Ngezi apps, yenza olo nxibelelwano kunye neentshayelelo zibencinci kancinci.
Yabona, yonke into iyidijithali kunye nefowuni, yenza ukuba udibane nabantu abatsha bangabinaxhala kangako, kushiye indawo yokuzithemba kunye nomdlalo oza kwenziwa. Emva koko, uvumele umntu omtsha ebomini bakho.
Ngokunyuka kwamva nje kweziganeko zehlabathi eziqhubekayo ukusigcina singaphakathi kwaye kude nehlabathi langaphandle, uninzi lolutsha lwanamhlanje oluyindoda luye lwasebenzisa ii-apps zokuthandana njengendlela yokomeleza umdlalo wabo ekusondeleni kwabasetyhini okanye ukuba neentlobano zesini nabo.
Ngale ndlela, kulula ukwazi umntu kodwa uqonde ngqo kwinqanaba. Sisebenzisa ezi apps ukunceda inkqubo yokuthandana ihambe ngokukhawuleza kunesantya sofudo ebesiqhelene nalo.
Kuluntu oluqhuba kakuhle ekusetyenzisweni ngokuqhubekayo kobuchwepheshe kunye nazo zonke ii-asethi zayo, ukuba nedama lokuthandana ngokufanelekileyo kwiingcebiso zeminwe yakho kwakungeke kube yindlela engcono yokusetyenziswa kweteknoloji yanamhlanje.
Ukumisela uloyiso lwakho olulandelayo okanye isithandwa sakho esilandelayo ngamagama abawasebenzisayo ukuzichaza kunye nemifanekiso esetyenziselwa ukubonisa umlingiswa kunye nobuntu babo ngokwenene kuguqula umdlalo.
Ukuphalala okukhulu kombulelo kwezi seti zokuthandana kunokubonwa kuphononongo lwezi apps njengoko uzikhuphela. Ungajonga ezinye zezona zixhobo zibalaseleyo ze-hookup ezifumanekayo kweli nqaku Iradar kwi-Intanethi . Ukuxoxa ngendlela eziapps ezenzeke ngayo ukutshintsha ubomi babantu abaninzi bubengcono.
Indlela ezi apps zisebenzisa iqonga zabo ukukhuthaza uthando kufuneka inconywe ngokunjalo. I-app, i-Hinge, izenzele igama lokuba yi-app yokuthandana eyilelwe ukuba isuswe ngokuqinisekileyo, ngenjongo yokuba ufumane umdlalo wakho.
Eso silogeni sitsala ingqalelo siveze iiprofayili ezininzi ezintsha zabantu abafuna ukufumana umntu onokuba ngumzimba oshushu abawufunayo okanye umntu abanokuthi badibane naye ekupheleni kwendlela.
Xa uthatha inyathelo umva ukujonga umahluko phakathi kweendlela amadoda aqhagamshelwe kunye nabasetyhini ngaphambili kwindlela entsha ecwebezelayo esenza ngayo ngoku, iphantse yangathi ufumana ujongo kwikamva lokuthandana.
Xa ezi apps zaphuma kwaba ngathi a reset yenkcubeko. Isiko elitsha ngokupheleleyo, uluntu kwafuneka lukhawuleze kwaye luqhelane nalo kuba le yayiyindlela entsha eyafika kwaye ilapha ukuhlala.
Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku amadoda ewaka leminyaka namhlanje sele eqhele kakhulu kwezi apps zintsha. Yonke imihla kwaye yonke indawo, ubona umdlalo omtsha okanye uve omnye wabahlobo bakho ethetha ngentombazana entsha awadibana nayo kwi-Intanethi ngolunye usuku.
Kwabaninzi, ezi apps zithathwe njengohlobo lwesisindisi sobomi. Inkalo ye-intanethi yenza abantu bakhululeke xa bejongana neentlanganiso zabantu abangazange badibane nabo ngaphambili.
Nokuba yintoni ezisa abantu kwezi apps, uyazi ukuba bagqibelisa ukuyicima app ukuziva banelisekile okanye bonke bonwabe ngakumbi kumava abawafumene kwi-app ephathwayo kwiscreen sabo.
Kuyamangalisa ngokwenene ukuba ingakanani impembelelo eqinileyo eyenziwe zezi apps kwaye iqhubeka nokwenza kubomi babaninzi yonke imihla.
Ubomi obutsha kunye namaqhina amatsha ahlala edalwa ngezi zixhobo zokuthandana mihla le, zityhala ingxelo yokuba kuhlala kukho umntu wonke, akufuneki nokuba ushiye ibhedi ukuze ubafumane.